If you knew exactly how your life was going to go there will be little excitement. It would be difficult to get up in the morning if you already knew exactly what was going to happen.
Yet, you hate uncertainty. You often like a plan of what your day or life will look like. But life is unpredictable.
The only thing that is for certain is that life consists of ups and downs, much like a heart a beat. That’s how you know you’re still living!
The hardest times are when you’re unsure if the outcome will be favorable or not. Your mind goes to the worst case scenario and you start to feel sick to your stomach. The uncertainty of what’s going to happen next can cause you to worry the most. The fear of the unknown will cause you to worry obsessively.
The most important question to ask yourself is:
What do you hope to gain or achieve by worrying?
You may have answered to better prepare...
There are a multitude of ways to get from one place to another.
If you were to look at a map and wanted to get from Washington DC to Los Angeles, you’ll see that there are many roads you can take that go in all different directions.
One of the first steps is actually getting in the car and start moving. One road may take you north toward Pennsylvania, another may take you south through Virginia.
The truth is, there is no “right” road to take. Yes, there may be a path that’s faster than another. But you’ll still eventually end up at the same destination.
Remember, there is no “right” direction. These six tips to choosing the right direction will help you move forward and make progress.
Every decision you make will take you further on your journey in life. If you find yourself off course of obtaining your goal then correct it. Make another turn...
Perhaps you’re a people pleaser who says yes to most requests. Or maybe you’re so busy that you feel like you need to say yes to every opportunity that presents itself to you.
Each time you say yes to one thing means you’re saying no to something else. It’s a trade off.
If you say to a breakfast meeting that means saying no to your morning workout. If you say yes to a company dinner that means no to date night with your spouse.
We all have 168 hours in a week. It’s how you use that time that is different.
Time is fixed. You will not get more hours in the day. But you can better manage the time you do have.
That doesn’t mean cutting back on sleeping and hustling through your day. It means making better decisions about what you choose to say yes to and what you say no to.
When you realize you’re in control of your time and...
Not making a decision is the most detrimental decision of all. Not making a decision means that you’re deciding to stay where you are. You’ve decided to do nothing. All because it’s easier to not to make a decision than to face your fears.
Here are some of the most common fears that hold you back from making a decision.
One of the most common fears is perfectionism. Whatever you do, it won’t be good enough to meet the incredibly high standards that have been set.
The truth is, nothing is perfect. Perfect is a subjective word. Your perfect may be different than my version of perfect.
When you’re focused on making something perfect you are also faced with the fear of failure. You’re so afraid that you’ll make a mistake that you don’t take any action. You choose to wait until you think things are perfect so you can proceed. But that time rarely...
As an introvert you love your alone time. It allows you to recharge and be alone with your thoughts. Doing things by yourself can be relaxing like going for a walk outside or reading a book quietly. But it’s also imperative that you have human connection. Building connections with people is what truly matters in life.
Here are five ways you can focus on growing and strengthening personal relationships.
Think about growing up and some of the good things you have experienced. Perhaps there were sleepovers with friends, camping, discovering music for the first time, road trips, etc.
A happy life is one that is built upon many happy memories. A lot of those memories are created with other people, especially growing up. Relive some of those memories and reconnect with childhood friends. Go through pictures from when you were younger. Smile and laugh as you recall good memories that you may have...
You may have multiple goals that you’re working toward but you’re struggling to see results. Here are the seven tips on how to achieve your goals faster.
Challenge yourself to choose one main goal and make it a priority. This will force yourself to focus on one goal and put all your effort toward seeing it through. When you have one main goal you’re focusing your energy on making that one thing happen. However, when you have multiple things you’re working on your mind gets scattered and little progress is made.
Spreading your energy amongst many goals will only slow you down. Think of it this way, you have two bridges across the water you’re going to build. If you put all your effort into one bridge it will get completed much sooner than if you had to split your time between the two. The same is true when you focus your efforts on one main goal....
Living life to the fullest is setting goals and going after your dreams. It’s living life without fear and regret. It means not holding yourself back due to self doubt and lack of motivation. It’s doing the things you love and being surrounded by those you love.
Living life to the fullest is not sitting back and watching life pass you by. Rather, this is someone who has lost their passion for life and desperately needs clarity on what to focus on. Not knowing what direction to move in, it becomes easier to just simply do nothing. Do not be the boat floating aimlessly in the ocean without a captain. Know that you are the captain of your life.
In order to live life to the fullest you must first get clear on where you are. Think about your life right now and how you feel. Something may feel off or missing. Perhaps you simply feel lost. You’ve lost yourself, your drive, your ambition, and you...
Everyone gets into a funk from time to time where something just doesn’t feel right. Perhaps you’re unhappy about something or just feeling a bit off. Learn how to get out of that funk and back on track with these six tips.
The first step is to acknowledge when you’re in a funk. Take note of your attitude and mood. If you seem agitated, sad, or angry, it’s time to get yourself out of that funk.
Nobody likes feeling down or under a cloud of negativity. Life feels so much better when you’re happy and in positive mood.
You may want to take a moment to think about what may have triggered you to go into that funk state in the first place. Maybe it was something someone said or did. Perhaps things didn’t go the way you planned and it made you feel bad. Whatever it may be, recognize it and know that this may be a trigger for you...
Everyone has heard the phrase be yourself. Sometimes that can be hard to do when you’re trying to be a people pleaser. The fear of what other people will think of you can make you act differently. You think that if you do things this way that these other people will like you more. But you can’t fully be yourself and be comfortable with who you are when you’re trying to please others.
When you are yourself, you’re the happiest. You’re not trying to please other people. You’re living life for you. You’re doing things that make you happy.
Trying to live up to someone else’s standards can be hard. The pressure of expectations set by other people is no way to live. You’re in constant fear of doing something other people will not approve of. When this happens you feel like you’ve disappointed them which only makes you feel bad about yourself.
The goal in life is simply to be happy. But, the truth is, you can’t be happy about everything in life. If that were the case then you should be happy when people die, get hurt, or when terrible things happen in the world. That’s just impossible. Mentally you can’t be happy about those things because they’re awful. Yet, you have this expectation that life should be happy.
In order to make life happy you decide to take control and work hard to fix the world that you live in. You think if nothing is wrong then you can be happy. Unfortunately, life doesn’t happen that way. There are things in life that are out of your control.
The best you can do is work with what you have. Make the most of your current circumstance. Be happy and grateful. Realize that you’re not supposed to have everything go perfectly all the time.
Take a moment to think about the...