AMY HANSEN

There are times when you find yourself dwelling on negative experiences in your past of all the things that didn’t work out or go your way.  You might be in a place right now where you feel like nothing is working in your favor and life is conspiring against you.  But, you’re at a point where you’ve had enough.  It’s time to take back your power and find that positive headspace again so that you can confidently go after your goals in life.  Learn to let go of the negative thoughts that are limiting what you can achieve in your lifetime.

Your Past

You’ve formed beliefs about the world because of your past experiences.  Perhaps you assume the worst and dwell on the past.  You believe that just because a terrible thing happened once, you think that’s what will always happen.  Begin to notice if your mind is thinking in absolutes by using the terms everything, never, and always.  Such as, life never goes your way or everything is going wrong.  You’re only focusing on the bad things...

If you’re not taking action towards your goals then something is holding you back.  It usually boils down to some form of fear, worry, or doubt.  All of these amount to the unknown of what might happen in the future.  Yet, by not taking action, there is also the unknown of never finding out if you can achieve your goals.  Your options are to remain stuck right where you are in your current comfort zone or embrace the unknown and take action towards the life of your dreams.  Choose the latter.  Don’t get to the end of your life with regrets and always wonder what could have or should have been if you would have just mustered up the courage to take action towards your goals.  Let’s get into action!

Emotional Feelings

Begin by asking yourself where is the fear, worry, and doubt going to get you in your life.  Consider if it’s going to help you or hinder you from achieving your goals.  Then, recognize how these emotions make you feel.  You might feel small, anxious, or afraid.  Thi...

Confidence is one of the biggest personality traits that can help you achieve your goals.  When you lack confidence, you don’t believe in yourself or your goals so they remain unachieved.  However, when you do have confidence, you take bold action towards achieving your goals.  You must learn to act with confidence.

Confident Energy

When you have confidence, your posture even changes where you stand up straight and speak in a confident tone.  Other people can sense your confidence or your lack thereof.  If you’re not confident then other people can feel that nervous disbelief within you.  It makes them question your competence, skills, and capability.  No one wants that.  This is why it’s important to tune into how you’re feeling in regards to your confidence level.  If you’re not feeling confident, then there are some things you can do to give yourself an extra boost of confidence.

Boost Your Confidence

You will have moments of confidence and other times where you lack co...

The more insecure you are, the more other people’s opinions will matter to you.  Being insecure means looking to another person to confirm what you already believe to be true about yourself.  Learn to be secure in who you are.  Take back your power.  No matter what anyone else says or does, have the self confidence to believe in yourself.  Your voice and your opinion are what’s important.  Another person’s opinion has no bearing on who you are or what you’re capable of achieving in your life.

Negative Comment

There are always going to be people who make negative comments about you or what you’re doing.  However, you have the power to decide how you respond.  You can choose to take the feedback as constructive criticism and look for ways to improve.  Or, you can decide not to pay any mind to the negative comments and you chalk it up to, it is more about them than it is about you.  Honestly, it could be that this person is jealous, threatened, or intimidated by you so it’s easier...

When you’re working to achieve your goals, there is a level of self confidence that you need.  You need to believe in yourself that you can achieve the goal that you’ve set.  There are many challenges that will try and persuade you to believe otherwise.  But, it’s that inner self confidence that will help you to push through and believe in yourself.  You develop self confidence by taking action to gain new knowledge and expertise that helps you overcome obstacles in the future.  Self confidence can also be strengthened when you invest in yourself and recognize your true worth.  Knowing your worth will not only boost your confidence, it will also empower you to go after your goals and dreams in life.

Your Worth

Your worth and what you bring to this world is important.  If you’re quick to dismiss yourself and your value, then it’s time to work on yourself.  Putting yourself down only lessens your self confidence.  Instead, learn to grow your self confidence and recognize your own...

The definition of self confidence is trusting your ability and judgement in life.  There are fears, worries, and doubts that challenge your self confidence.  Perhaps you’ve failed before and you don’t want to look silly.  You don’t want to experience this again so you hold yourself back from going after your goals and dreams in life.  You remain in your comfort zone of what you already know to be safe.  It’s time you find your own self confidence so that you can step outside your comfort zone, take a few risks, and move boldly in the direction of your goals.

Fear of Failure

The fear of failure is also the fear of judgement by worrying what other people will think of you because you’ve failed.  Deep down you worry that it will only confirm what you already think to be true about yourself.  Perhaps you believe you’re a failure, unworthy, not smart enough, a disaster, or incapable of achieving success.  These fears hold you back from going after your goals and dreams in life.  You...

The definition of resilience is being able to move through and grow from difficult times.  You’re going to experience a lot of difficult times when you’re working to achieve your goals.  There will be obstacles, setbacks, and missteps that make you fall down and challenge your resolve to achieve your goal.  But, this is where having resilience comes in.  Having resilience is what’s going to help you continue taking action through those difficult times.

Figure It Out

The path to achieve your goal will not always go as you had hoped or planned.  You won’t always have the answer or know the perfect right next step to achieve your goal.  However, when you have resilience, you know you’ll be able to figure things out as you go.  That’s why you must continuing building resilience so that you strengthen your inner belief that you’ll be able to figure out how to achieve your goals in life.

Lessons To Learn

Resilience is built each time you fall down working to achieve your goal.  ...

Life is full of ups and downs.  There are steep mountains to climb and deep, low valleys to traverse.  The journey can be long and arduous but it’s worth it if it means you’ll achieve your goals.  However, if you’re avoiding risks and taking the easy route, you won’t get you to where you want to be in life.  You’re going to have to fall down, rise back up, and keep trying if you want to achieve your goals.

Your Thoughts

Going on this journey is not easy.  Especially when the overwhelming thoughts of self doubt, fear, and worry quickly creep in to bombard you.  You question if you should leap and go after your goals or not.  You ponder staying the course or change directions.  You wonder if you dare to take action or play it safe by remaining in your comfort zone.  You get lost in the abyss of these thoughts and you begin making excuses as to why you’re not taking action towards your goals.  This inevitably causes you to miss out on the whole grand adventure of life.  You never ...

Being unafraid of making mistakes takes a lot of courage.  It’s realizing you’re not always going to get everything right.  It means owning it when you mess up and acknowledging you can make adjustments that lead you in the direction of achieving your goals.  If you continue to hide behind the fear of making mistakes, you’ll never be able to fully go after your goals and dreams in life.  You’ll just remain stuck in you comfort zone of what you already know and what feels safe.  Learn to become unafraid of making mistakes so that you can take action towards achieving your goals.

Failure

The fear of making a mistake is so much more than a misstep.  You might actually look at it as though you’ve failed.  You’ve embarrassed yourself and ultimately confirmed your worst fears about yourself.  Perhaps you believe this confirmation that you’re a failure, incapable, and incompetent of achieving your goals.  But, beating yourself up and calling yourself these horrible names will not help...

When you don’t have all the answers to make a decision, the future outcome becomes very uncertain.  You worry about making the wrong decision and this causes you to avoid taking any action at all.  The fear of not knowing the answer can leave you paralyzed in your current comfort zone.  However, if you want to achieve big goals and dreams in your life, you’re going to have to learn to be okay with not having all the answers.

School

Recall being back in school when you were called upon to answer a question in front of the class and you weren’t sure if you knew the answer.  Que the anxiety sweat and massive fear building up inside of you.  If you provided the wrong answer you’d have to live with that embarrassment for what seems like forever.  If you got it right you’d look smart and be a hero.  However, this judgement from yourself and others does not determine your true worthiness or your ability to achieve your goal.  You’re not going to know all the answers every time.

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