Build Your Table Of Advisors

If you were to have a table of advisors who you trusted their thoughts, feelings, opinions, and judgement, who would sit at your table?  At this table, you can share what you’ve been through or are going through without judgement and get feedback and advice on your next action steps.  It’s a place to spill the beans, let loose, and discuss what’s on your mind and deep within your heart.  You don’t have to filter what you say or risk feeling embarrassed.  This is a no judgement zone where your trusted advisors will listen, let you been seen, and then give their feedback, but only if you ask for it.  Let’s determine who would sit at your table of advisors.

Past

At your table of advisors, you may have people who are deceased.  These could be relatives, historians, scientists, or spiritual beings to help guide you.  Maybe you’ve had conversations with these people in the past.  Or, perhaps you’ve felt inspired by someone’s words whether written or spoken in an empowering speech.  Your table may have relatives who have since passed away but you often use to go to for guidance when they were alive.  Maybe you want to include smart people who have worked to change the world or those with big hearts.  These are all the people who have passed on and have gone to the spiritual world.  It doesn’t mean that they still aren’t here listening and sending you signs from the other side.

Present

Next, your table of advisors may include present family or friends who you respect their opinion, judgement, and advice.  This could include current mentors or people you admire from afar.  You don’t have to know these people but perhaps listen to their teachings online and appreciate what they share.  People who share from their past experiences and missteps to help shorten your route to achieving your goals are often people who you look up to and admire.  Maybe these people have been there for you during difficult times in the past.  Perhaps it’s a best friend, coworker, or parent.  All of these people are alive and well.  Utilize these people and go to them to help you make some of your more difficult decisions in life.

Future

Then, there is your future self.  Have a place at the table for your future self, the higher version of you that knows you can achieve greatness.  Your future self has already seen what’s possible.  Your future self believes in you and knows that everything will work out for your highest good.  Having this level of confidence and self belief is empowering to help you make tough decisions in life.  If you knew without a shadow of a doubt that it would work out, perhaps you would choose differently or at least feel more confident to take action towards your goals.  It’s pulling from the bravery, knowledge, and faith of your future self who has already seen that your success is inevitable.

Who Is Not Allowed At Your Table

You should also consider who is not allowed to sit at your table.  These are the people who only judge you, look down on you, frown upon what you do, and make you feel very small.  These people do not have your best interests at heart.  It’s the people who want to drag you down to their level instead encouraging you and lifting you up.  Rather than listening to you, they are often too busy wrapped up in their own lives and trying to get what they want.  There is too much self interest and no willingness to be there to help or support you.  Obvious signs are the people who cut you off when you’re talking, shut you down with discouraging comments, or just make everything all about them.  Do not allow people to sit at your table who never listen to your truth or let you be seen for who you really are.

You

Lastly, you sit at the head of the table and can remove anyone at any time.  You do not have to take the advice from your table of advisors.  They are there to give you feedback but you are the ultimate one to make the decision.  You can accept their advice or choose to disregard it.  Either way, you are in charge.  Your table of advisors are there to help you but you get to ultimately make the decisions.

Your table of advisors is who you go to for advice when you need to make a difficult decision.  Your job is to listen to the feedback and then you get to decide what to do next.  You do not have to take their advice.  You can take it under advisement but ultimately you get to choose what direction to go next.  Make sure you have an empowering table of advisors to help you with your more difficult decisions in life.

Take Action Challenge

Build Your Table Of Advisors

Step 1: Name Your Advisors

On a piece of paper or in your notes app, create three categories:

• Past Advisors
• Present Advisors
• Future Self

Under each section, write down 2-3 people you would trust to sit at your table.  Think about the people who make you feel seen, supported, inspired, understood, and challenged in a healthy way or empower you to grow.

Step 2: Audit The Energy At Your Table

Now ask yourself:

• Who makes you feel safe to open up?
• Who genuinely listens to you without judgment?
• Who leaves you feeling inspired instead of small?
• Who drains your energy or discourages your growth?

Be honest about who should no longer have a seat at your table.

Step 3: Ask Your Advisors One Question

Think about one challenge, decision, or goal that you’re currently struggling with.

Then, journal:

• What would your past advisors say?
• What would your present advisors encourage you to do?
• What would your future self tell you right now?

Notice any repetitive themes or guidance that comes through.

Step 4: Make One Empowered Decision

Choose one small action step based on the guidance that resonated most deeply with you.

The goal is not just reflection.  The goal is action.

Your future self is built through the decisions you make after the conversation at the table ends.