Jealousy is a negative feeling. You don’t like to feel jealous and often kick yourself for feeling that way. But, jealousy is a feeling that’s signaling to you that something is off. You can either choose to ignore it, push down those feelings, and continue to feel badly for being jealous or you can find the root cause behind your jealousy. There is an underlying reason behind your jealousy. Here are five steps to discover what jealousy is trying to tell you.
The first step is to start by identifying what or who you’re jealous of. Think about why this specific situation makes you feel jealous. It could be that someone else has achieved a big goal that you’ve always wanted to obtain. You could be wondering, why everyone else seems to have all the luck. These thoughts are stemming from a place of lack, that you don’t have what the other person has in their life. Begin to identify what or who is causing you to feel these negative feelings of jealousy.
Now that you’ve identified what’s causing you to feel jealous, the second step is to figure out why you want what someone else has. Maybe you saw someone receive a big raise or promotion. Dig deep as to why seeing someone else achieve success has caused you to feel jealous. It could be that you’ve been working longer and harder hours without any recognition. Look at your particular situation and uncover the root cause behind why you feel jealous.
The third step is to acknowledge what you need more in your life. In the previous example, it could be that you need more recognition so that you feel rewarded for all your effort. If you know that you’re not receiving that in your current workplace, you may need to start looking for another job where you can move up. Decide if your needs are being met. If they aren’t, it’s time to make some changes. Think about how you can get your needs met and create a plan for how you can add in more of what you need in your life.
Step four is about addressing the biggest thing that holds you back in life, which is your own limiting beliefs. Think about what limiting beliefs you hold around the situation that makes you think success is not possible for you. It usually boils down to four things; time, money, skills, or discipline. If you have any doubts as to not having enough of any of those four things, then you need to work on shifting that limiting belief. Also, determine if there are any thoughts of undeserving or unworthiness because those limiting beliefs definitely do not serve you. It’s time to let go of your limiting beliefs that are preventing you from living your dream life. You can find the time, money, acquire the skills, and be disciplined to make your dreams a reality. You are worthy, deserving, capable, and qualified to achieve great success. It’s time to start believing that is true.
The last step is to realize that when you see someone else’s success, it is proof that it is possible for you too. When you believe you are worthy and deserving of success, and you’re working on creating it in your life, your subconscious will show you proof that it’s possible. That proof may just be someone else achieving what you’re working so hard to achieve for yourself. However, when you see someone else achieve what you want, it should make you feel excited because that’s evidence that it’s possible and can be achieved by you too. Have an abundance mindset where success can be achieved by anyone, including you. Success is not limited to a certain number of people or available to everyone else excluding you. That limiting belief is only in your mind. Let go of your limiting beliefs and embrace abundance. Believe that when someone else achieves success, it means success is meant to be yours too.
Jealousy is a sign and it’s trying to tell you something. Therefore, when you feel jealous, explore that feeling. Examine that feeling with curiosity to discover what jealously is trying to tell you. Your feelings communicate to you when your needs are or aren’t being met. Jealousy is trying to show you something that you need more of in your life. Yet, there is something holding you back from achieving it. Usually this is a limiting belief around the situation that you need to let go of so that you finally reach the level of success you’ve always dreamed of. The truth is, you are holding yourself back. Jealousy is just trying to tell you that. Let go of your limiting beliefs and when you see someone else achieve success, get excited, because that’s proof that it’s possible for you too! Jealousy isn’t all bad. It’s a sign that you need to pay attention to.